Friday, December 07, 2007

(an expansion of a comment from a couple of posts down)

a full seven days too late for World AIDS day...but better late than never:

So - "sexpox".

I think the term originated a couple of months back, as a way to convey contempt for people who espouse a non-anti-porn, non-anti-sexwork, non-anti-BDSM, "sex-positive" point of view.

And then it was bandied about by people who espouse a "sex-positive" point of view, as a sort of snide self-identification, as a way to convey contempt for people who used the term to convey contempt for "sex-positive" people.

Now that I think about it, despite the fact that it's catchy and easy to remember and evocative and really, only five or six people use the term in its pejorative on a regular so maybe it's not such a big deal - I gotta say, I'm agin' it.

cuz, y'all, what about AIDS?

whatever side of the porn/sexwork/bdsm fence you sit on, what about AIDS, y'all?

I'm not HIV+, nor am I an AIDS activist. But I know people who work long and hard to purge the idea from the human consciousness that there is some consensual sexual behavior that deserves PUNISHMENT. Not just any punishment, but The Biggest, Baddest, Most Punishing Punishment - long, slow, conspicuously Capital Punishment in the form of a wasting disease, with clearly visible physical benchmarks of its progress as it slowly kills its victims.

so, when I see the word "sexpox", I don't think of cute hawtt titjobbed bisexee suckfuckers who giggle and simper on their spindly heels and tilt their empty heads and smile while cooing "ooh! I'm so empowerful! aren't I, Nigel?"

(and even if I did get that mental picture, it wouldn't match any of the individuals I know who identify as "sex-positive." the gulf of understanding here is unbridgeable, apparently, when it comes to that.)

when I see the word "sexpox", I think of a fatal disease that happens to people who fuck the wrong way, and need to be punished before they can die as a consequence for their behavior.

I mean, I guess, if you think there's a type of consenting adult sexual behavior that NEEDS to be punished by a fatal disease, because that behavior is THAT SINFUL that people who do it need years and years of suffering until they've repented enough to die in misery, then by all means continue slinging around "sexpox" like it's no more harmful than "tranny" or "faggot". (eyeroll)

but if you really think that there's a type of consenting adult sexual behavior that deserves the death penalty, may I humbly suggest you examine what that really means.

and if you think I'm being petty or trivial or oversensitive or coopting a movement of oppressed people in order to grind my own personal axe, may I say


thanks for that, I'd been meaning to write on WAD too and I...didn't. so I put up a post now.
Oh well done, AP!
"Sexpox" indeed.
thanks, y'all.

I only wish those folks who NEED to read it would read it.

but since they never comment here, I'll never know.

I'm not sure what to do with my jesting comments on that other thread. I can't take them down - I'm not a history-eraser. but I feel like I look a little hypocritical, having had much fun with the word not two days before being all frowny and disapproving of it.

but maybe it's all evidence of the examination process, the searching and fearless inventory, the relentless interrogation...or something.
I think I am a little more in love with you...or at least a very strong like.
mWAH, rootie!
Wow, that's REALLY well said.
thanks, Trin.

although, despite my rather angry final paragraph, I feel like I should try to explain one thing - If I'm wrong, or backward-thinking, or in error on some detail or another, I wish someone would come forward and correct me.

not in a "do-my-homework-be-my-mommy" kind of way, but in a "oh, here, this is inaccurate" kind of way.

the "fuck you" at the end, I have to admit (after some thinking on it) that it's more for me, to remind myself that I don't have to equivocate or fence-sit - that I can have an opinion and stick to it, even if others have valid opinions on the subject.
AntiPrincess, you're awesome times 5. Well, well said.

AP is a goddess.
all hail Antiprincess, goddess of sciatica and fence-sitting. ;)
Really wonderful, AP. Wolfgang is very blessed! :)

poor little guy. half the world thinks mommy is eight feet tall, glow-in-the-dark and walks on water, the other half of the world thinks mommy is as evolved as an axolotl.

heh. whatchagonnado.
You know what really pisses me off is the fact that the people who go around associating sex-positive people with a pox KNOW how ableist this is. I mean, this pox thing isn't exactly benign. There are real people who die from pox every damned day but they have enough privilege to be able to find it suitable for inclusion in some very unoriginal name-calling. Yeah, like you said: Fuck you.
My response to it is really personal and apolitical - I don't appreciate being called a "pox" - which used to be a curse - for holding a different opinion than someone else.
note - if you're here from Pandagon, feel free to comment. and if you're here from pandagon to disagree, again, feel free. don't let the hugbox dissuade you.
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