Wednesday, March 07, 2007
I have had it up to here with the following:
"Oh, no, you're okay, it's just your partner/husband/friend/person who resembles you is...well..."
"I didn't mean YOU! it's just your partner/husband/friend/person who resembles you is...well..."
"I have no problem with you, I just can't stand your blahblahblahblahblah..."
and dare I say, with just a hint of irony:
just shaddup already.
not because I disrespect your truth, or your voice, or find you beneath contempt on your best day (unless, of course, I also do), but because I just don't want to hear it anymore.
because the effort it takes to listen to you, to engage you, to privilege your point of view over my loved ones for even just a second, makes me a disloyal, rotten, totally suck-ass friend and a disgrace to my partner.
maybe before I learn to be an effective agent for change I have to learn to be a better person. So I'm done with that.
Soooo, you don't think there's anything to the birds-of-a-feather philosophy?
previous husbands and partners have, but Antiprince is in the clear.
note - he produces that kickass band, doesn't play with them.
another opportunity for growth, yeah?
see, though, I've never been much of a sticker-upper. I've always been a "well, yeah, I can see your point, I can understand why you feel that way, I totally get what you're saying"-er.
I've always felt like it was a character flaw that needed some mending.
I feel that the universe is trying to tell me something about changing that, so I intend to pay attention.
Methinks some folks project the hive mind too much.
"She's not playing with a full deck. She doesn't HAVE a deck. She has a three."
The whole idea of disliking people for the company they keep is, well, a bit junior high for my tastes.
At this point I'm hoping the whole thing dies down soon, and trying not to get involved in that other argument.